A lot of guys will want to learn the skills of a pick-up artist in order to meet plenty of women. Their motivation might be to take their seduced women to bed or to have a short-term relationship with them. But the one situation that all men find themselves in, no matter talented they might be when it comes to seducing a woman, is that they fall in love.
The idea of falling in love with the woman we seduce barely crosses the mind of student pick-up artists. They often view love as an impossibility or something that they will be able to control or avoid. But avoidance doesn’t work. Love happens to all of us. Look at Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game. Look at the main character, the infamous Mystery, who goes nearly crazy… as a result of the woman he loves. See, love happens whether we want it to or not.
The challenge most men have, no matter how great they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how hold on to the woman they love. This is particularly true for men who used the tactics they picked up in the books they have read and the courses they attended. See, the one thing these courses and books fail to teach their students is how to maintain a long-term relationship. These student pick-up artists naively buy into the idea of the alpha male personality. They don’t care to know about how to appreciate their woman until it is virtually too late. Even those who do realize the importance of appreciation often don’t know how to maintain the right levels of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don’t know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from “new and exciting” to “comfortable.” This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the “love” alive.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second tactic is introducing other types of excitement to the relationship. Even in the comfort level, we need to incorporate adventure. Not every night, or even once per week, but the idea of a spontaneous adventure once in a while keeps the relationship fresh and keeps her waiting for the “next time” something fun and out of the ordinary happens.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It’s like going from first gear to fourth — not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists’ relationships suffer.
