The first kiss in any relationship can be a time of high anxiety. It is a stumbling block for many guys, particularly those who have been out of the dating scene for a long time.

You have good reason to be anxious about your first kiss. The very first kiss is for many women, a means of assessing a man’s compatibility.

The preliminaries to the kiss is as important as the execution of the kiss itself. There are many complex inputs and cues, both romantic and chemical that women pick up on.

It’s a mistake to think of this all important act as just some ritual that you have to get out of the way. Three tips on getting it right.

1.) Don’t ask for her permission.

This doesn’t mean that you can just grab her and start kissing because you’re feeling aroused. Instead you must gauge when the moment is right. If there is sexual tension between both of you and she is showing signs of attraction for you, then seize the moment and kiss her.

Asking for permission at this point lessens the romantic impact of that first kiss. It may even make you seem weak. Many women want to be swept off their feet by a strong confident man who takes charge. This is important, take charge of the moment.

2.) Know her signs of attraction.

Does she find excuses to touch you such as wanting to read your palm? Perhaps she’ll stumble and hold on to you for support. Does she “accidentally” bush her hand across yours?

Her eye contact with you is very significant. Is she stealing a few glances your way? Is there plenty of lengthy eye contact?

Do her eyes roam over your face? Her eyes may linger over your lips. Does she lean in to be closer to you?

Is she slightly nervous? Perhaps she fixes or plays with her hair in your presence. Are her pupils dilated?

3.) Initiate the kiss slowly, as if in slow motion.

Lean in closer, take her hand, gaze at her lips, her mouth. If there is no resistance, gently kiss her. A variation to this is to gently play with her hair or cradle her face with your hands before you kiss.

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